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UPDATE [Dec. 18th, 2009|01:53 pm]

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[kayla1906]
I wanted to first of all thank everyone for the kind comments and for the prompt answers to my questions last week. I really appreciated all of the replies.

My friends procedure was scheduled for 9:30 yesterday morning. I picked her up and we arrived at exactly 9:30 and did not see one protester on the way in. After she completed the paperwork it only took minutes before she was called back. A little before 11 the nurse came out to be sure I was there and said she was ready to be released. We went back to her house where she laid around most of the afternoon, she was cramping but not too bad. I stayed until about 3 when her daughters were due home, but before leaving she was hungry so I got her some soup and a salad. I talked to her this morning, she said she slept well after finally getting to sleep which was difficult because she was crying and no matter what she tried she could not control it. She woke a couple of times with some pretty bad cramps. She ate well last night and, according to her, is feeling amazingly well today. She has decided to not tell her daughters at this time, and probably will not tell them at all.

I am glad for her that it went so well, and I am glad, like you all said, none of my fears came true.
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Pain! Pain! [Dec. 18th, 2009|02:54 am]

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[kelaina]
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Okay, I'm sorry to post on this topic again, but, um, OW.

So I went ahead and filled the damn script, because the pain had moved to my lower back and felt in general like someone was squeezing me all around my waist.

I took a pill around four o'clock yesterday. By seven I was in a very gentle, soothing world where everything was quiet and peaceful. I felt the way people often feel with a small amount of alcohol in their systems: like the whole world is okay, and I didn't want anything to break that peace.

I went to bed shortly after, and was woken up around two with back cramps and frontal cramps. I'd also soaked through my pad and bled a large spot on my pajama bottoms.

I'm pretty sure this is normal, but I do not like the pain. I took another pill, and am waiting to see if it kicks in.

In the meantime, advice?
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Question post-op [Dec. 16th, 2009|09:20 pm]

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[kelaina]
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I have a question regarding post-surgical recovery.

This time around, I'm having really bad cramps and bleeding. Is the cramping normal?

ETA: I'm also suffering occasional chills and a bad headache.
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disclosing abortions [Dec. 15th, 2009|01:28 pm]

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[vegaenglit]
I'm hoping this is ok to ask here.

My last abortion was almost a year ago and there have been several times since then that I've wanted to tell people. In almost all instances it's to good friends. Like yesterday, i was with a few mama friends and we were discussing conception and birth stories and i really wanted to mention my abortions. they are part of my relationship and reproductive life, too. Or i was with another friend and we were talking about the movie revolutionary road and how we were both very affected by it. i said it was uncomfortable to watch because it hit so close to home. she asked, how so and i hedged my words. or a lot of my mama friends' husbands had vascetomies and my husband was the last to catch the bandwagon and when they asked why he finally bit the bullet i didnt say "it took me getting pregnant and getting an abortion that lit the fire under his ass" even though that was exactly it.

IDK, i have a tendency to "over share" so maybe that's it. After my first abortion, i found myself totally spilling the whole thing to a gal i met once in yoga class. I can't be the only one like this.
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Questions Before Abortion [Dec. 14th, 2009|10:25 am]

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[sunbeatsclouds]
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Hi everyone. Apologies for the sockpuppet account.

I'm seven weeks pregnant today, and just scheduled a surgical abortion for early next week. My IUD totally failed, so this was not a planned pregnancy. I have a few questions, and I was hoping you could all help me out. First, the doctor I'm going to doesn't offer any type of sedation. I'd hoped for at least a valium drip, but it's just local. I know that it's hard to generalize experiences, but how painful should I expect this to be? I was advised to take motrin or advil beforehand.

Second, I'm taking a final exam later that day. Like between three and four hours after the end of the procedure. I know the timing sucks, but I have felt pretty awful from a physical standpoint because of the pregnancy, and I just want to get it over with. Moreover, I want to make sure it's done before I go away for winter break, and this is the only appointment they had. Again, I know experiences differ, but considering that I won't receive sedation, do you think this is doable from a physical standpoint? I'm in a graduate program, and I don't think that they will allow me to reschedule the final unless I contact them in advance with a medical note, which I'd really rather not do.

Lastly, and I realize that this is more a question for my doctor, I had a fair amount of bright red bleeding last night. Definitely more than spotting, but aside from a few slight twinges, no cramping. The bleeding has stopped this morning, but at the time it was sort of a steady stream of what seemed like fresh blood mixed with a little clear fluid. Overall, it was enough to fill maybe one or two regular tampons. I thought I was miscarrying (the heartrate was slow at my ultrasound, so it wouldn't be surprising), but it hasn't progressed at all. Any ideas what this could have been?

Thanks so much! I'm so glad this community exists.
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Second time around [Dec. 13th, 2009|01:45 am]

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[kelaina]
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I had my second abortion yesterday (to me it's still today because it's 1:30 in the morning and I've been asleep for several hours).

I went to the same place I went last time, the Raleigh Women's Health Organization. In case anyone lived in NC and was curious, this place is the real deal. It's not a CPC, it's licensed surgical center, where they mainly do abortions and tubal litigations.

They say every pregnancy is different (and boy, was that the case. Talk about nausea and upset this time around), but possibly the worst part was the actual abortion.

As usual, everyone at the RWHO was friendly, competent, and polite, despite the fact that my appointment was at seven thirty and they were JAM PACKED ALL DAY LONG.

The doctor who preformed my abortion was friendly and made jokes, but WHAT THE HELL? The pain was ridiculous. The first time was very, very calm, a little nervous. This time I was shaking and freaking, and the pain swallowed me in a way I can't describe; it was almost like I was swimming through it.

I actually yelled, and it seemed to take forever. I'm not sure if its because the nurse who did my ultrasound told me the fetus didn't have a heartbeat (which I suspected), so it took longer to extract it? I'm not sure.

Anyway, the fun part was, right after the abortion, they had to give me the Rhogam shot, and the nurse asked me to put my leg up and I said, "I'm going to throw up". She was awesome, just grabbed one of those kidney shaped bowls and I promptly puked.

I got the shot and they took me to the recovery room.

Now, the interesting thing was, I asked for local anesthetic, because I really felt a need to consciously be making this decision. (Last time, I'd changed my mind about the method of my abortion, and so I had to be localized.) You guys, (and if this upsets anyone, I apologize deeply), if that cramping is what giving birth feels like...no wonder women yell. I yelled, and my pain tolerance level is ridiculous.

While I was in the recovery room, I noticed several patients hooked up to IVs. I was immediately concerned, because I thought something had gone wrong. It turns out, if you ask for general anesthesia, you're IVed fluids afterward to make sure you recover okay.

Also the driver policy makes sense with that in mind, because there was no way those girls could have driven themselves.

I recovered much faster this time around (thank God), and I probably could have driven home, but my friend stole the keys and made me eat on the way home. (Mmm, cheesy eggs.) I dozed on the ride, and stayed at my friend's for a few hours until I had the energy to drive to my parents.

I feel...a little giddy, honestly. Not guilty, not sad, but giddy. It might be the drugs, and it might just be the aftermath.

I don't want to treat this as blase, but I feel kind of high.
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Question about crisis pregnancy centers [Dec. 12th, 2009|12:08 am]

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[invertedtime]
If this is not the place for this question, please let me know.

I was wondering if anyone has had any experiences with crisis pregnancy centers they'd like to share? I've been hearing lately that some of them are guilty of trying to decieve people into thinking that they will provide abortions.

I was always under the impression that they are upfront about not providing abortion resources. Not all, but there are always a few rotten apples in any barrel.

Any thoughts?

Thank you in advance.
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Help Advice Needed [Dec. 10th, 2009|01:54 pm]

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[kayla1906]
Since early last summer I have had a part time job. The lady who trained me, and who I go to for help and I have become pretty good friends. At least we go on breaks together and enjoy good conversations. At one time we were discussing children when I told her I plan to be child free, another time in some conversation I let her know I have had two abortions. She has no problems with abortion as she is pro-choice. Yesterday my day was to end at 4. She came up to me and asked if I could hang around until until she got off at 5, and she would like to go someplace where we could talk in private. I thought I was getting fired, but then that would be a funny way to do it, and she is really not the boss. Anyway we went to Arby's got something to eat, sat down at a table. She seemed to be very nervous, but finally said if I tell you something will you promise to never tell anyone. So she said she is about 9 weeks pregnant and is going to get an abortion next week. She had a million questions for me and wants me to go to the clinic with her when she has the procedure. All of this was no problem, but two things came up which I am not sure of. She is 48 and wondered if that would make the abortion more difficult. I told her I did not think so, but I reall did not know. So can answer is there anything that may be different for her because of her age? The other think is she has two teen age daughters, one a senior in high school and the other either in her 2nd or 3rd year in high school, I know they are very close in age. She is very concerned that they not know about the abortion. I told her I thought they are old enough to understand and should know. Then last night I got to thinking maybe it would not be best as her sex life is private and should stay that way. So my 2nd question is what do any of you think about this, do you think a mother should share their abortion with their teenage daughters? Lastly I have no experience giving advice to an older person, is there anything different I should be doing or anything else I should know or do concerning this relationship with her? I am very honored that she would come to me so I want to be sure I am helping her the best I can. Thanks much ladies for your help.
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